Job Interview Tips for Freshers - A First Hand Experience

A fresh off the boat engineering graduate with 4 job interview experiences under my kitty - I feel the dire urge of blurting out my interview triumphs and gaffes. Though the interview count may seem a bit discouraging for you all readers to go on further down this post; but believe me, the company names might bring in that vigor back in your souls.

The last year of my college life had been one of the most tormenting and enjoyable ones. The beginning itself marked the head start of the placement season. With despair and triumphs following sporadically.

Let me give you the names of the 4 companies that gave me the opportunity of interacting one on one with their HRs. Here they are - INFOSYS, ACCENTURE, GRAIL RESEARCH & CAPITAL IQ.

Which interviews I cracked & which ones cracked me would be revealed later. But these 4 were enough for me to understand the mistakes we freshers make while sitting in front of the HR. I shall divide the interviewing tips in two sections : On-campus  & Off-campus. So let's begin:

ON-CAMPUS : 

Well if your college boasts of a good Training & Placement cell, on campus companies will come knocking at your doors, in your familiar territory giving you a psychological head start. But never let this head start get into your head. The company guys know how to rip your clothes apart even in an unfamiliar territory. Usually on campus companies comprise of 3-4 rounds. Clearing the aptitude rounds depends on your caliber and practice level and can be worked upon.
But when it comes to interviews - questions can be fired from any domain. Keep the listed things in mind while sitting in an interview :

• Avoid falseness : Be it the matter in your CV or your conversation - be yourself as the HRs have an eye for detail and can easily decipher at what point you digress. Even if you have nothing special to boast about yourself - don't hesitate in revealing your true identity. Be true to yourself & to the HR.
• Learn to say "Sorry - I don't know" : Instead of roaming about in the labyrinth of your own talks, you are actually annoying the HR and delaying the process. Say NO if you don't know something - the easiest & the most confident of ways out.
• Avoid boasting about yourself : For all the high achievers and extra curricular mavens; stay grounded when telling about yourself to the interviewer. Your achievements will surely highlight themselves in the CV but do not brag about them unnecessarily unless asked to elaborate.
• Know the company for which you are giving the interview : Many a times candidates find themselves in a limbo when asked about the company (what it does, how, the facts et al). Do your fair bit of research before entering the interviewer's room.
• Know yourself : This is the best time for you to think what kind of personality you finally have that can make the other person happy. Again do not brag - stay grounded.
• Never reveal your future plans if they foretell your desire of leaving the company in the coming years : Ensure the interviewer about your aim to climb the career path in their company itself.
• Keep that smile but don't get any personal with the interviewer even if he tries to touch your personal nerve : This is something that tests your presence of mind the maturity level when dealing with seniors. So keep a check on your lascivious self.
• Firm handshake : Don't forget to keep your hand muscles tight while shaking the interviewer's hand - a firm handshake tells a lot about a person's personality.

OFF-CAMPUS:

Well getting a chance to appear in off-campus interviews are quite meager. If you are competing with 150 students in an on-campus recruitment drive, you are competing with 20-30 times more people in off-campus drives - people with work experience and additional qualifications. So if called up for an off-campus hullabaloo, pull up your socks for an all new level of discrimination and competition.

My personal experience has been a little dismal in this section - because of some mistakes I committed and some discrimination that freshers face. Here are a few tips :

• Know the company : It might sound strange, but I lost a chance to get a job just because I was not able to correctly tell what the company actually did. So as stated earlier, do your homework before coming for these interviews.
• Keep your cool & don't lose faith even if you see experienced candidates and post-grads too competing for the same job: I kind of faced a psychological setback when I say a complete horde of people competing for the same job in one of the above 4 mentioned companies. I thought I had lost the plot just because my qualifications were miles less than the experienced & post-grad guys.
• Search the web to see if the company expects candidates to have a CV in specific format - mind me it acts as an add on.
• Expected salary : Better to zip your mouth if the interviewer puts up this question, if you are a fresher. Try to circumambulate over this question.
• Even if the company offers a non-technical job (for engineers) - keep your technical eye open. You never know the interviewer's background. Know your projects and technical internships.
• Reach on time to the venue: It is something self explanatory - You do not want the company watchman to shoo you away. Be punctual.
• Don't get overconfident if you clear "n-1" rounds. There's always an 'n' that can burn all your hopes.
• Last but not the least - if not selected - avoid cussing. There might be a better opportunity waiting for you. And if selected - don't forget to party hard !

Interview experiences in these 4 companies made me realize my weak & strong points. I got selected in 2 of the above 4 companies. And I sometimes regret my failure to crack the other 2 interviews - but we are freshers and millions of avenues are waiting for us to leave our mark.

I hope these tips would help - if not all but at least some in the long run.

The Cadence of Life

I still can't believe am here after like an year, since my last "passionate" post. Perhaps I am more busy updating my life for the sake of my future that I began to lose interest in this venture of mine - an interest that started 4 years back. Good lord I still get carried away with emotions when I read my previous posts, the accounts that were written way back in 2008 upto 2011.

And these emotions are enough to push me into jotting down new posts (though this one took about an year).
For the ones who already know about the 'personal' aspect of my blog posts this post is surely going to add up more anxiety to your expectations; and for the first time visitors - go through it and change your status from "first time visitors" to "first time admirers" :-D

As my posts have always connoted - My parents and good old friends think of me as the brainy sorts; My ex thought of me as the perfect lover; My college friends think of me as the socially outgoing and friendly guy; My haters think of me as a straightforward attitude stricken guy with self centered motives; My professional associates (in college) think I am way too social and one of those known faces in college that I sometimes forget that there's a fine dividing line between 'seniors & juniors'; My teaching faculty thinks of me as just another 'engineering student with no interest in the things they teach'; My non-teaching faculty thinks of me as one of those responsible students who'll prove to be good managers in the near future; The corporate HRs think of me as the engineer with heavy "non technical" highlight in the CV......

And what do I think of myself - a farrago of the aforesaid qualities; to sum up in one line - A romanticist engineer by profession; a purely 'non tech' guy by passion; a socially outgoing guy who loves to make friends; a guy with the thirst to excel in life who has a bit of "bad luck" that closely follows him.


Life has once again come a long way after my previous post - the post that described a passionate lover's take of a stranger, who was enchanting enough to make the writer go wobbly in the knees. Well the story did begin between them two; but then all good things come to an end - and that's how it ended as well.
What after that ?! Well, the lover in me took a back step and it was the time for me to think about my future on a serious note. Now when it comes to "future", a technical career is the last think I ever think of.

But as the age old talisman says - the things for which you have the biggest aversion are the ones that will definitely show up in your life. That's what happened - got placed in 2 top "technical" organisations and secured my future 'at least'. With the hope of carving out a career in the non technical 'analysis' field, I spent around 4 months waiting for that one company that'll allow me to sit in their recruitment drive.
Bad luck followed - companies did visit my campus but my hale and hearty placement officer didn't allow us already placed engineers to sit in any of those non-tech companies.

Despair again. In my dire want for a non tech job, I kept on applying to different companies to no avail. I never gave up though but did feel a little broke. That's what life is all about - professional life or love life - the cadence of highs and lows is inevitable. Yes one thing's for sure - your efforts are going to pay back at some point of time or the other and a similar coincidental thing did happen with me.

It was during a workshop at my college that I met this guy Mr.X - the Founder/CEO of Company Y. In one of our interactions while dropping him back home, I just happened to take the name of Company Z in-front him expressing my desire to work in it.
And to my utter surprise the next thing he said, " Mail me your CV, I'll forward it to the VP Company Z. We both are good friends." This Company Z was the one for which I had been applying for the past half year - and here I was - if not a coincidence then what else could we call it.

An interview call was what followed; albeit the interview date is still a mystery; one thing is for sure - resilience, will power, a never give up attitude, the power to chase your dreams and coincidence; collectively  augur a good fortune. Though the result might turn up at a later stage, life holds perfect plans for all of us. Anyone and everyone will meet the creator in disguise someday. Until then - keep those hopes alive, work towards your goal - despair is always closely followed by triumph !


PS : I feel the urge to thank this person 'X' for his continuing concern, and this person 'A' who has witnessed my life - the highs and lows ever since the past one year. God bless them both.

The Tale of a "Beautiful Encounter"...

Long time it's been since I penned down my last blog post...perhaps my life was leading into a dungeon of jejune atmosphere, "yet again" until "this day"..( "yet again" will be elaborated..the elaboration won't be spicy..mind u..stay glued anyways ;) )

For the ones who have landed on my page for the first time...I started writing here way back in 2008 and that was the time when I unleashed The Romanticist me. I am a lover of every good & bad thing around me. I have fallen for the weirdest things in life and have stood by and drooled over some of the most "beautiful" things..

Bad things are of course not the problem of concern in this post...As a matter of fact, "a beautiful encounter with a graceful someone" has been the source of imbuing this "Doctrine of Confessions" !!

Let me begin like this...How often do you meet a stranger in your life and how often do you go by your gut feeling that meeting a stranger is just next to taboo..?! Perhaps its something quite normal..and I don't think I  need to elaborate the "whys & hows" of this disposition of ours.

I put forward the same stance too, but with an exception in the present "case". The "case" is something our protagonist had never thought would occur; something that doesn't happen too often...something's that's heard by many, but actually witnessed by few..And I am one lucky witness, rather the linchpin of that case & of this inspired post.

A plenitude of interesting characters and faces; people from all walks of life, all age groups and people with the most gentle to the most infamous states of mind...From the most gullible lass to the most cunning lad (or vice versa for most of you..)..and to the most eccentric of personalities...this year has made me meet a plethora of people with qualities that are still difficult to decipher and opined upon.

But one thing's for sure...the more people you meet., the more you socialize, the more you bring forward the garrulous you....the more life experience you gain...the more you learn what the world is...what the world has ever been...and what it will be...

Encounters with strangers bring up a series of experiences...mine has been one of the most beautiful ones of late...

( Excerpts from "his" 3 day experience @ our college fest)

A freshness in "her" smile..a juvenile voice to fall for...a svelte stance..and trices of grace in her gestures...this was his state of mind when he noticed "her" from a distance..a chance to interact was what he wished for..
When the authorities were looking up to him..."she" was the only one he was busy gazing at..He was falling for every gesture..& every move that she made..a chance was what he needed and an opportunity was what he carved out ! They both were strangers for each other..but hit off quite well..perhaps their ability to interact with all & sundry, made their minds resonate ! An interaction of about 15 mins on the first day and about 20 mins on the second, were enough for both of them to become close acquaintances.

Time passed...a few weeks down the line..and they are enjoying a strong rapport amongst themselves...two strangers..one common place of presence..matching of mental frequencies..getting of well in no time...the earlier quoted "case" has indeed been one joyous & colorful one for our protagonist...He hopes to make it big in life..making the "stranger" a witness of his success in the future...

Destiny decides whom you meet in life..you decide whom you wanna keep in touch with..and luck decides if you'd actually be with them...lets see what's in store for "them"...Strangers to friends to ______ or strangers to friends to strangers...let  fate fill in this void !
Amen :)

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Moment of Grief...Smile...& voila! FELICITY !!!

An evanescent life... that's what best defines the state of human life... n what makes me think that a transient life like ours is something we can boast about...? Well...perhaps that was a sporadic question I always asked myself...but while I m writing down this post...I can rekindle all those things in this mortal life...that finally make me brag about our transitory lives...!!
Here again I feel the urge to mention the source of inspiration for this post...perhaps all the people whom I meet everyday...or have met in the past 20yrs...I acknowledge all of them for being a part of my life...this "EPHEMERAL HUMAN LIFE..!"

Well..we all have good days and yes we have bad days...euphoric days without a second thought... are prophesied by all and sundry...is it the same for days of grief...well you know the answer...!
Gone are the days when winter was surely followed by spring...d contemporary situation is perhaps a complete paradox ! If spring comes...it will surely be supplanted by winter...which usually procrastinates into a more diversified form of hailstorms n tornadoes...

Perhaps the little touches of grief in moments of elation...n majestic touch of exultation in moments of grief...have indeed laid down the foundation of the gregarious human life...!

So..now let me introduce the mainstay of this post...an emissary representing anyone and everyone in this world...Yeaa the "world" as a whole...! Coz "his" story is just a "little part" of what people face in their day to day life...!

"His" day begins at 6...hot or cold...dry or rainy...our "man" sets a new benchmark in the field of puntuality everyday...a favourite of the bosses...jewel of his mom's eyes...the best guy a girl can get (his chica cites)...certainly he was someone living a life of contentment and repletion...!

But this day had something else in store for him...perhaps even life faced an inferiority complex seeing his abound life of equanimity...
Late for office in the morning...fight with girlfriend last night...and a quarrel with boss over a wrong decision  that our guy made a few days back...fair enough to say that his life took a wrong turn...dire circumstances out of nowhere confronted him everywhere that day...

Frustrated with whatever was happening...a single bad day was taking its toll already...clouds of sadness engulfed him as he had certainly not expected such a day in his life...(as do everyone of us)...
Embarrassed by boss' bashing...his day in office seemed like the biggest punishment one could get... Didn't want to go back home after office...but he was helpless...

Striking the little paper cup by his feet on the staircase, till he got down to the office reception...his mind was still contemplating about all that happened with him...and he was anticipating even worse things to come his way back home...until he saw the office watchman constantly gazing at some old, rusty photograph...
The watchman who was the most vulnerable person around...who faced derogatory comments from everyone...The most gullible person..who cud do nothing but hear to and ignore everyone's bashing n slandering...Even our "guy" used to treat him like just another low grade person...

But as I quoted earlier...this day was different...n instead of taking out his frustration on the watchman...our "guy" went close to him...noticed the frown on his face...had a glance at the photo that he was dug into...noticed a little girl in that photo...n asked a simple, genteel question, " Who are they ?!"
Completely stupefied by his question, out of nowhere...the watchman took time to come to terms with reality...someone had actually approached him n spoke to him in a such a polite n concerned tone...!

With a scowled face n a doleful tone, he replied "She's my little girl..my angel...its her birthday today...her 5th birthday...she's back in the village...n I ve no means to contact her...or even wish her...hear her tone...I asked the boss if I could make a call back home...but he refused................(a long pause)....."

Listening to his plight...our "guy" was indeed moved..n in no time he took out his cellphone..asked the watchman to dial the number n yess..talk to his daughter...
Perhaps the watchman was stunned with whatever our "guy" just said...n instantly his frowning expressions usurped into expressions of hope...smile...n his happiness knew no bounds as he was actually talking to his wife n daughter...The heightened elation that our "guy" was noticing on his face...actually was making him forget his atrocities that affronted him a few hours ago...

The watchman talked to his heart's content and took a sigh of relief n satisfaction as he cut the call..The heightened expressions of happiness on the watchman's face were indeed paying off big time...our "guy" was now in no mood to ponder over the things that happened with him this day...all he knew was...that for the first time in his life...he could actually empathise with the watchman's plight n understood how it felt to be a victim of vituperation n bashing...! Not just even the call...our "guy" brought a cake from the nearby confectionery and had a picayune birthday bash for his daughter...the watchman could in no way find a way to thank our "guy"...he quoted that day as the best day of his life n showered him with blessings that emanated all the way from the depths of his heart...!!

Taking leave...with extreme vibes of contentment on both their faces...our "guy" bid goodbye to the watchman...n on his drive back home...our "guy" knew nothing but joy...euphory...bliss...his moment of grief was passe...bringing n experiencing a smile on the watchman's face made him realise what it takes to be able to make a non-affluent person happy...happiness that can't be measured...can't be penned down...can't be described in words...but can only be felt...felt from the very inside of our evanescent souls...!! Happiness that makes us overlook our griefs...n helps us face the moments of grief with strong avidity...That day's experience set a new benchmark in our "guy's" life...yess he came back to track...again...today his boss is proud of him...he ll soon marry his girl...n his parents of-course...they cud never ask for more...!!
What about the watchman ?! Well...he's not just a "watchman" now...he's a well recognised staff of our "guy's" office...who is a regular overt-covert convivial partner of our guy...in office premises !! ;-)

This short story is certainly one of those little talismans that give a new definition to our lives...trice of griefs...is perhaps an indispensable part of our lives...short or long...griefs do come with lot of negativity...but their departure surely gives ever new meanings to our lives...
Finding and inventing moments of elation in moments of grief...just as was did by our "guy"...not only helps us come over the dolorous times...but sets a series of redefining times that help us rejoice big time...
This life is too short to be wasted in cogitating over times of sorrow ceaselessly...mortal life can be immortalised by smiling n spreading happiness in the world...!!
So the next time you face a lachrymose day or time in life...try bringing happiness on that one poor person's face you come across who's condition is even worse than one can dream of...
It'll not only bring satisfaction on his face...but will elevate you from the MOMENT OF GRIEF...TO a MOMENT OF SMILE...N VOILÀ !! FELICITY !!!!!!

Be ThE ChAnGe YoU WaNt To SeE...

Are you a victim of an insipid, dull, mundane lifestyle...?! Are you missing up on all the good things around you ?!
Do you think colours are passe and there's no way to pep up things in life ?! Is the ghost of the past haunting you till date and forcing you to be a sullen prey of gloom ?! Dumped by girl/boy friend; victim of peer pressure; prey of the bully HODs; victim of backstabbing; if u ve just nodded your head, then this post is the right place to be...In the next few lines I ll try to pave the way towards the grasses that are always greener on the other side !!!

Reading the above prologue to this post, most of you would ve rightly guessed what its all about and for those of you who think that the above lines are just not enough to break the ice...just read on :-D

Your life's just a cake walk until n unless you face the first setback in your life...emotional, personal, academical or any sort of interpersonal whammy that leaves a permanent scar in your life... For some emerging from such a misfortune becomes one of those gargantuan tasks which even the Gods consider taboo...n for the others...the same set of events provide a base for a new beginning in life...learning to see beyond the imperfections in life... molding yourself to accommodate in every situation and turning the odds in your favor...treating even the heftiest of tasks as one of those mere mickey mouse tasks....thats what defines the real player in life...! And a few such ebullient personalities are the ones who have once again been the source of inspiration for this post..!

The lexicon of our daily life adds up in itself ever new definitions of "LiFe" everyday...the words of hope are biologically inherited and the real words of "moving on" are inherited at every confluence of our grown up lives..every juncture teaches you a new long term lesson...
Politics as a concept that looked good only in media n journals, becomes an everyday affair at some point in your life...n the victims..?! Well..some are ram shackled completely and the others learn...learn...observe...learn...n become furtive players with loads of experience and number of references !

So..what brought me here yet again n forced me to jot down this post...well some of my recent encounters with a few interesting jaunty personalities have imbued me with a revolutionary ardor !! The clear cut touch of sanguineness in their persona...has perhaps made me understand the essence of optimism...yes a simple yet powerful word...heard by everyone but put to use only by the few who have moved on to enjoy the essence of this transitory human life... :-)

Life's a sure shot bumpy ride for everyone...n the only way to tackle the ups n downs of life is to hone up the suspensions of  your ride ! Even the happiest of people around you have once in their lifetime been a prey of gloom...victim of tragedies...sufferers of dilemma...n scapegoats of hatchet jobs...Those who fly away with the the sulky clouds of grief, are never heard...n those who smile n learn even in the face of grief...are heard forever !!
Facing life's hurdles becomes a cup of coffee for the ones who have the valour to hold on tight to any opposing situations...by being buoyant n optimistic with the vigour to pave way for the light of hope even in the murkiest of conditions... :-)

Smile..laugh..enjoy....learn...observe...learn...no space of grief...jolly is our way of life...people think we r mad...but thats the way we are...thats d way v take pride in...Who are we ?! Well we are the bunch of people who have inspired this blogger to pen down this post on the way of life...on the way to tackle things in life...yess..we believe in "DEFINING OUR OWN WAY OF LIFE...WE BELIEVE IN BEING THE CHANGE THAT WE WANT TO SEE...!!"

Coup De Grace...

"Every gesture..every move that she makes, makes me feel like never before;

Why do I have this growing need to be beside her..."

These were the lines that "he" used to introduce "her" to me.

Okay..before I move on..I think I feel an urge to introduce "he" - the protagonist of this post. Well "he" is a work of my fiction, and his story has been inspired by some true events in someone's life. And what about "her" ? Well..well..well...now that will be the best kept secret, to keep you all glued to this post ! :-D

How often do you see yourself standing infront of the mirror, and thinking "I ve changed a lot" when u see ur replica...? How often have you heard ur friends rebuking u, with one simple statement- "You have changed, u r not what u used to be." How many times in a day do you remember ur grandparents' talisman dt stated - "Never change urself for anyone" ?

Perhaps we have moved so much ahead of time, that even the simplest of advices from our near n dear ones, seem like those mammoth burdens that they are imposing on us.

Now..why such a prologue to this post ? Well read n introspect, how the protagonist of this story lost it all, just coz of some simple things dt complicated his life and entangled him in d cobweb of  fantasy and desire !

Out of touch for about a year n a half, I happened to meet him today. I remember the last time I saw him, he was one of those guys who were destined to make big in life, who were earmarked to be successful in every sphere...But the situation today contradicted all the above said statements. Sitting in the cloistered surroundings of this market, I was completely stupefied to see him...his condition to be precise...loosened attire, unbrushed hair, shabby beard and to top it all up..a cigarette in hand..not aware of his surroundings, he was just sitting, smoking and gazing at the crowd...constantly engaging in soliloquy...

His condition was full of ambiguities...A guy whose elegance could never be vitiated by anyone; a gregarious person, who was famous for making friends wherever he went; was sitting all by himself..in complete solitariness... Trying to reason with myself, I tried finding my way through the crowd, n finally I was standing by his side. As soon as he had a glance at me..without a second thought...he cudnt stop but hug me, with tears falling from his eyes; his uncertain tone that was difficult to decipher. Trying to console him constantly, I couldn't come to terms with what exactly was happening ! And before I could utter a word, his trembling tone gave me a pellucid idea, of what he was going through..."She left me man...she left me..........." were the only words he said; and as a reader, a lover & even a sceptic, you too can now clearly tell what I have been trying to tell in the above lines...!

2 years before the present day


Over with our competition exams, immediately after school...we had a long break ahead of us...[ n plz dont be concerned about the exam results..dt would reveal the identities of most of the characters ;) ]..2 long months that would be testing our patience, courage, n would be giving us all sorts of mental trauma...Partying was the only routine pilgrimage for all of us during this time...me, "him" n our group of friends...! It was during this last party of the season, that we all met this girl...a scintillating personality;  jocund n outgoing by nature, one of those few in a thousand girls who seem to have devoted their lives to chastity...
Her very first look impressed everyone around...or shall I say "he" was the only one who beat the odds to be completely smitten by her looks...ummm..saying no would be incorrect at least now when half the story is quite clear to you all !

Perhaps that was the last time "he" attended our get togethers...completely off the social circuit, he started living in his own world after our colleges started...or may be that was what all of us thought..?
Busy with our respective lives..no one paid heed to his absence...till the time I finally happened to meet him today...in some completely unexpected circumstances......


Back to the Present Day




Greeting me with a crying face, completely shattered coz of something I was just about to hear..."He" was just not ready to listen to me but weep endlessly..."He" was perhaps setting a perfect example of that one thing we all will witness one day..."Life's a stage...n we all are mere players..who are abacked by sporadic good and bad days..." 
Finally able to overcome the clouds of paroxysm, he regained his senses...n without a second thought...out of sympathy, anxiety n concern I asked him just one thing " Where had you been all this long ?"
A simple cryptic reply from his side was enough for me to understand his state of mind...."It was her..."
"Her"..?! Yes the same girl who happened to find a place in my post out of nowhere...the girl who managed to be the centre of attention of half the readers...the girl whom we met about 2 yrs back...Perhaps the only good thing about the situation was that "he" managed to impress "her" and went into a relation with her..?! A relation ?! Yess...a "Relation"...!


His side of Story


We all know "when it would have happened"....we all wanna know "how it happened n why she left"....
Perhaps the answer to "how it happened" is a bit personal...n I wont touch that...So the only question that remains is.."What made him change so much?"
Well the "Magic of love...." is what "he" states...Difficult to digest...?!
Ummm..half the world is living with the "Magic of love thing"...then what brought him to his present state...?!


Some decisions in life will always haunt us all one day...n his' was one such decision that he repented once the unexpected "bad patch" started engulfing him...


With a cigarette in hand...n rolling eyes...he began narrating his part of life that was hidden from all of us for the past 1.5 yrs...

*Her entry in my life n I ws no more what I used to be...She ws d world for me...It all began in June last year...things were jst so beautiful wid her...hours of talkin n talkin n more talkin...They say "At some point in life, our priorities change.." perhaps I was the living example of this statement...We both begun wid our college n v both meant d world to each other..Bunkin, missin lectures, goin on dates...d relationship strengthened day by day...Unconcerned about my academics, I was digging deeper into our relationship..n started expecting more from her...

 Things went pretty good ..all year long...d beginnin of 2009 ws jst awesome...winters + cold+ v both...by nw I had realised wt d so called "seriousness" in a r'ship meant...N dt ws d time wen I confidently said dt , "Yes ! I m serious..."Came February, came March thngs were just "freakily" beautiful....bt who cud ve predicted d future...April marked d beginnin of her xams n my sems n stuff...I used to sacrifice my studies to teach her...It all went pretty good...all april...n den came d "dark month of May"...I had my end sems round the corner...n after a long break v both met 3 days b4 my xams...it was another one of those beautiful meetings....v met...v shopped n lot more...!

Bt even in my wildest dreams I cud ve never thought dt dis ws my last meetin..without personalizing things I can only say dt d bad patch of out r’ship begun coz of her family... or shud I say dt dt “girl’s” real picture started emerging out of nowhere...

She changed...She nw begun her “blame game”…d jokes in d middle of r’ship became n xcuse 4 her to go away…She begun pointing out my bad traits which even I didn’t knw I had…I ws in d middle of my end sem xams wid an entrance xam too..Bt she just didn’t f**kin care…U r dis..U r dat…U did dis..U did dt..F**K off…Y r u aftr me….these were d ques she ws putting up nw…n I smhw avoided her 4rm screwing my xams…I ws a mere silent listener of her accusations…N yeaa she did apologise 1ce 4 her behavior n I thought dt its ws all her frustration…n wil soon b bk to normal…bt...ended May…begun June..her new condition emerged..”V shud b best friends “…ummm..I agreed hopin dt she wil surely cm bk to normal..bt 3 days hence she agn f**ked me up…”Who d hell r u to b my friend..?”

I ws jst speechless…I mean ws she d same girl I met as “my girl” bout a month ago…an year of “f**kin serious” commitment seemed to b a joke 4 her…Bt I kept fooling myself hopin dt she’d b bk sm day…Alas..! I ws d biggest fool…her blame games continued...The roughest patch of my lyf..courtesy “this girl…Even today wen I think bout her…I remember d girl who I thought she was…Wanna knw bout her nw..wel wel…She’s just enjoyin her lyf..I ws just a part of her game..n she threw me wid a bang…Nw she does all things which I once stopped her 4rm doing 4 her own gud…She just pretended 2 b wid me 4 n entire year…bt all d while there ws smthng else cookin in her “malevolent mind”…Today I try forgettin her bt try retaining our good tym in d past 1.5 years…She was d first girl in my life…n I ws d fourth guy in her's…May b she had a habit of fallin in r’ships n dumping guys aftr smtym…N it wont b odd if she gets in a r’ship again, afterall dts wt dis girl was all about...
Dts d only way I try convincing myself...n dts what has changed me...what has brought me here...feeling completely shattered in her absence, I was left with no other option...n I trembled every time I tried calling u guys...as I was afraid of being reproached by you all...
Dts my part of story...clear enough for u to understand as to where I was all this long......................*




(A long pause)
Pheeewww...his part of story !! Taking time to digest what I just heard, my mind was bustling up with sympathy...I could commiserate with him...His tears knew no end...I wanted to help him out of this condition...But one thing that was keeping me in a tizzy was - "How could a girl change a guy like him so much, that he just overlooked his other priorities in life??"


"Magic of love"..as "he" says...can do wonders..It can take you to a whole new world of wonders n excitement... A roller coaster ride, those already smitten by this "4 lettered word", can easily work out the irony in these statements...Easy to fall into, but difficult to get out of...it takes you to places even Gods wouldn't have been to...Blossoming at every step, the bond of love is one divine feeling that everyone will experience one day...
But what about those who already have been through all this...just like our protagonist...who devoted 2 complete years of his life after a girl, who was superficial enough to dump him when he had given her that place in his life, that even his parents failed to carve...
My mentor once quoted, " One can easily cope up with losses in his/her financial lives, but when it comes to personal lives...the same coping up becomes a gargantuan task..."


A ramshackled personal life was what dilapidated "him" from head to toe...Blind trust on a soubrette (as he now quotes),  being blown away by the winds of influential change in the past 2 years; giving more than cent percent commitment in his relationship, failing to debunk the real face of that promiscous girl (whom I referred to by some beautiful adjectives when we met her for the first time).....
"He" had become a prey the very day he went into a relation with "her" ; the coup de grace  was the day she dumped him...............................................






Note : Events n instances have been inspired by true life events...This post has been written with no intention to denigrate anyone's self respect.